So I’ve been feeling quite down lately and to be honest I have no idea why. I usually get like this near my time of the month (girls you know the exact feeling) and everything I see and do makes me feel very down. Don’t worry I barely go through these phases and 90% of the time I’m that crazy freak that hopefully everyone knows and loves. I love making people laugh and honestly, for me, that’s one of my favourite qualities about myself, making people happy. Maybe I try and make them happier than myself? That will probably take time to figure out. Anyway getting back onto the topic, here is a few things that I try and do to convince myself that everything will be okay and most of the time I just need to get a grip.
- Does it really matter?
Many people, especially me, seem to get caught up on such little things which don’t mean anything at all in the big wide world. To be honest the first thing I generally tell myself is ‘will those who are less fortunate be annoyed or upset by this?’ And let’s be honest, a guy not texting you back or someone not replying to your snapchat isn’t a life crisis and those living in less fortunate circumstances who barely have any basic human rights would probably laugh in our faces if they heard our issues. They always seem to make the most out of any situation, I NEED THEIR SECRET.
- Do more of what makes you happy.
I kind of live by this saying and it really does change a day around for me. May that be dancing, reading, socialising or even just a PLL binge, anything that makes you feel good should be done. Personally I think that if I am truly happy in myself this will be sure to rub off on other people, even a smile, hello or even just a little compliment will be sure to make someone’s day hopefully a little better. Remember, smiles are contagious
- You’re only 19.
I’m pretty sure I have this conversation with myself most days at the minute. I get so wound up about things quite easily and I don’t think that social media really helps me in these situations. We all see those ‘relationship goals’ on Instagram and Twitter and we all (and by ‘we’ I mean singletons) try and convince ourselves that those couples posing for these photos probably hate each other and they are only posting cute pics to get all those likes which seems to be running our lives at the minute. But as much as we try and convince ourselves that we don’t need that to make us happy, we crave those relationships from time to time, and well at least I know I do. I’d love for someone to turn up at my door with some flowers and a Victoria Secret bag and make either sides of my mouth touch my ears. And I’m pretty sure nothing would make me more happy than having a date on Valentine’s Day, but then I think ‘Come on girl, you’re 19 get a grip’. I once saw this thing that said ‘what a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven’t even happened yet’. And that changed things for me. I don’t know how, it just did. Why focus on what you don’t have and focus on what you do have?
- If you wish to live to see better days, then you must endure the bad ones.
It’s okay to have shit days and if eating Ben and Jerry’s is your kind of pick-me-up then do it! Or if sweating your ass off in the gym is a way to make you feel good then go for it! For me a good old sweaty workout always seems to do the trick. I love taking my anger out in any workout and nothing satisfies me more than knowing I ran that little extra distance or rowed that little bit further. Just remember positive anything is better than negative nothing and you can achieve great things when you put your mind into something.
- Remember, don’t let social media ruin your life.
Get of Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram and step outside. To quote Monica ‘Welcome to the real world, it sucks, you’re gunna love it’.